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March 2007 netPsychologist.com Newsletter
Tools and Tips For Success With Quality Living.
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Not only that, but your human mind can look at itself and know it is reading less than half the actual letters in front of it and is still able to get the meaning of the paragraph. Your mind amazes itself!

Our ability to look at the whole picture, to lift out and acquire meaning despite messy details is the the source of hope and optimism. It can also lead to prejudice and denial.

As it is with all powers, the power of the mind can be used for positive or negative consequences. How do you use the power of your mind?

Pursuing Happiness? Experts Offer Advice.
Jonathan Clements   Experts Share How They Get Happy In Their Own Lives. cat
Jonathan Clements, staff write for the Wall Street Journal asked six happiness researchers what they personally have done in their own lives. Here is a synopsis of Clements' article, but you can also use the link below to read the original piece.

 

  1. Relish The Day. "When something good happens, find a way to hold on to it longer. Celebrate the small things, not only the big ones."
  2. Dodge Traffic. "Lack of control is what tends to induce stress in human beings. Being in commuter traffic ranks high as a low control activity."
  3. See Friends. "Surveys suggest seeing friends and family are among our happiest times. Balance work and time with friends and family."
  4. Buy Memories. "Think about how to spend time and money so as to buy the most memorable experiences."
  5. Limit Options. "Having lots of choices can lead to unhappiness. You don't 'close the deal' for fear another better choice will come along.

 
Keep The Faith, Baby.
Paul W. Anderson, Ph.D.  
Faith is a state of openness and trust.

"To have faith is to trust yourself to the water. When you swim, you don't grab the water, because if you do you will sink and drown. Instead, you relax, and float. The attitude of faith is the opposite of clinging to belief, of holding on." (Alan Watts).

When a couple looses faith and trust in their relationship, they no longer are able to trust the "water" will hold them. The "floating" stops and the couple flounders like a ship run a ground.

To restore trust and faith in the relationship, each person has to find a way to let go and stop the defensive clutching to their own hurts and preconceived notions about reality. They must return to an openness to truth about themselves and each other, whatever it may turn out to be.

Counseling is one way couples use to find the "float" again and keep the faith in their togetherness.

 
 
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