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Greetings! According to an old fable, the Fisher King is ill, lies dying in his castle. His kingdom is no better off; dread and hopelessness fills the land like a poisonous fog. One knight can save the king and his kingdom. His name is Parsifal. Parsifal is the youngest and purest of knights at the king's round table. He and a companion is sent off to wander and search for the Hoy Grail. If and when he finds it and he asks the magical grail question, the Fisher King will be healed and all the land with him. Of course, Parsifal, often interpreted to mean "fool", doesn't know this. It's as if he is blind, blind to these hidden realities. Parsifal does bump into the Holy Grail, is dumbfounded and keeps silent. He has been taught as a child to be seen, not heard. He uses rules for children to guide him as an adult and the magical question is not voiced. The Fisher King goes on dying, Pasifal goes on living and searching until he matures to the point that when he again stumbles upon the Grail, he is able to speak and ask the right question. We all have moments in our lives that have the potential to be luminous, magical and healing. Two things are required to reap the benefits of "finding the nut" despite our blindness. First, keep on going. In the going on living, we can learn and grow and that keeps the option open that we will again find a nut. Keep taking risks. Stay curious about yourself and others. Search, explore, and ask questions. Life is an experiment for all of us, whether we recognize that fact or not. Second thing: stay awake. Be as mindful as your level of growth and maturity allows. This will enable you to recognize the nut when you find it and know what to do with it. Life is a series of long and boring stretches interrupted in unpredictable intervals by magical moments. If you fall asleep during the long stretches, you lose that opportunity to get the healing when it "suddenly" appears. Other opportunities will come along, but we don't know when. Nuts and Holy Grails are where you find them. Oh, what was the magical grail question? "Whom does the Grail serve?" Healing answer: "Those who ask of it."  text by Paul W. Anderson, Ph.D.
"You cannot solve the problem with the same kind of thinking
that created the problem." Thus spoke Albert Einstein. Seems
to have some truth to it.
To help us think differently, use another brain, a brain other than your own which might have the possibility of thinking differently about your problem. Of course, we resist this because it is different and when we're a bit anxious or troubled about a problem, we shrink from something unknown or different from what we're accustomed to. However, this is why winners use coaches, to get another way of thinking about how to achieve a desired goal. Personal coaches can ask difficult questions such as, "Do you know what it is you don't know?" or "Do you have time and resources to invest in your future?" "Who are you without your job or your money?" But that's the point: think differently about your present and the problem to be solved. Often the real problem is not the problem, but how we go at trying to solve the problem. That's the time to get coached.
Work doesn't gets easier. Ever. You just get more efficient.
Think of it as a marathon runner. The odds are crazy. Just
having to run a marathon is hard enough. To be first in your
field? Huh? Are you nuts? Yet, the marathon runners know one
thing. That giving up is not an option. Even if they come in
second. Or third. Or fifth. Or last. The marathon has to be
run. Because what are the options? Go back to doing what?
Start from scratch with what? Should a marathon runner start
swimming? Or boxing?
The core to success is knowing what you want. And then getting your roots. And yes, the wind will come. Yes the rain will fall. Yes, there will be days and nights of bitter cold. But the sun will rise. There is always a summer. And even in the summer, you need to work. You need to grow. Work and business doesn't get easier. That's what life is about. But as a marathoner, you struggle to run the first few miles. Then after a year or two of constant practice. Of constant persistence; Of learning what to do; and more importantly what NOT to do...you complete your first marathon. Then the second and the third. You're becoming efficient. At this point, you're beyond struggle and have moved into efficiency mode. Work towards getting to complete your first marathon. It's a run you'll struggle every step of the way, but you'll make it in the end. And completing the course is victory in itself. And rankings don't matter......text by Sean D'Souza ©2001-2005 Psychotactics Ltd. All Rights Reserved. Wouldn't you love to stumble upon a secret library of small business ideas? Find simple, yet electrifying ideas, on copywriting, public speaking, marketing strategies, sales conversion, psychological tactics and branding.
"If only there were evil people somewhere, insidiously
committing evil deeds, and it were necessary only to
separate them from the rest of us and destroy them. But the
line dividing good and evil cuts through the heart of every
human being. And who is willing to destroy a piece of his
own heart?" --Alexander Solzhenitsyn
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