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November 2006 netPsychologist.com Newsletter
Tools and Tips For Success In Stress Management
  Do you manage stress or does it manage you?
What’s new in stress management? Stress and it’s sources increase as time goes by.

What’s old in the management of stress? The same thing as always: we don’t use what we know and could be using to handle daily living stresses.

A few facts to prove the point that stress is caustic to quality living and is not going away. These are as recent as 2004, according the American Psychological Association and the National Institute of Mental Health.

  • Stress is linked to the six leading causes of death: heart disease, cancer, lung ailments, accidents, cirrhosis of the liver and suicide.
  • Seventy five (75) percent of visits to doctor’s offices concern stress-related ailments.
  • In a typical workplace with 20 employees, four will likely develop a mental illness in the year.
  • Nearly 15 percent of college students have been diagnosed with depression.

 

Two observations for your health:
First, acknowledge you are not immune to stress. Accept it.
Secondly, practice mindful stress reduction. Build at least five management activities into your daily life.

To get a read on your current level of stress take the Holmes Stress Assessment Test. Quick and easy with results instantly available online, no charge!

Next, do something, anything. Okay, so you can’t/won’t start doing five things daily. Do this one, the best: breathe deeper. If you smell the roses or any flower for that matter, you breathe deeper than usual. If you laugh, you breathe deeper than usual. If you cry, yell, run, hit something, cheer at a sporting event you will inhale and exhale with more volume. That’s the point, get the oxygen flowing.

Of course there are other more conscious and mindful ways to breathe deeper: yoga, meditation, walking, playing with children and dogs, sitting up straighter and deliberately Inhaling, and taking breathing lessons as in qui kong or voice lessons.

You choose, but please do choose something for your stress reduction. Then there will be something new in your life regarding stress management.

Top Five Reasons People Don’t Take Good Care Of Themselves
Paul W. Anderson, Ph.D.  
Stress and higher levels of anxiety go hand in hand with poor self care. That fact may seem so obvious you would expect people to intuitively know to put care of self in all ways at the top of their priority list in daily living, like breathing and eating.

This is not the case and here are the Top Five Reasons why:

  1. Were not shown or instructed in the ways of good self care.
  2. Grew up and/or continue to live in emotionally chaotic families.
  3. Received and/or continue to practice religious teaching and training against so called selfishness.
  4. In the past and/or present, they receive little or no support for self: no permission or validation for good self care, for putting self first and others second.
  5. We live in a child centered, child focused society in which children are over-protected and over- indulged. As a result, children become adults who have not learned that they, not others, are responsible for the care and feeding of all aspects of themselves. An attitude of entitlement does not lend itself to good self care.

 

 
After A While
Janet Casey   You Learn......
After a while you learn the subtle
difference between holding a hand
and chaining a soul.

And you learn that love doesn't
mean leaning and company doesn't
mean security.

And you begin to learn that kisses
aren't contracts and presents aren't
promises.

And you begin to accept your
defeats with your head up and your
eyes open, with the grace of an
adult, not the grief of a child.

After awhile you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much.
So plant your own garden
And decorate your own soul,
Instead of waiting for some-
One to bring you flowers.

And you learn that you really can
endure. ..
That you really are strong and that
you really do have worth.

 
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