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MORE HELP USING
THE
BULLETPROOF RECOVERY PROGRAM
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There's no disgrace in asking for help and assistance.
Asking for what you need is a critical tool for staying
sober. Asking for help to stay sober is one of the best
predictors of long term sobriety and solid recovery.
I suppose there are as many roads to long lasting recovery
as there are to God, at least that is my opinion. Once a
person has found "their" road, however, they ten to act and
speak as if it is the only way to the goal, God, recovery,
whatever. The Bulletproof program is not the only road to
recovery, but it is one of the ways that works really well,
if you use it properly.
If Bulletproof Recovery works for you, that's what matters
to me. And that's the purpose of this page, to give you
suggestions and tips to help you use this method of staying
sober. It may not be the only way, but you need to find your
way. If you've tried to use this program and you have
questions about it or some confusion or it hasn't worked
like you need it to, I am pleased you asked for help. Here
are some of my thoughts.
1.
Call, write or e-mail me. Let's talk. I'll be happy to
deal with your individual concerns in applying the
Bulletproof program.
2.
Bulletproof Recovery is a program. You have to have a
program to stay sober as much you have to have a program to
save money, exercise and stay physically fit or raise a
child. A program is a repeated sequence of behaviors that
you use to keep desired outcomes in place over time. Your
program of recover has to be practiced repeatedly over time.
There are no quick fixes to quick fixes. Keep at it a while.
How long? Six months, at least. Then we'll talk about if
this is the right program for you.
3. Get a coach, a sponsor, a sparing partner, a practice
buddy, what ever you want to call it. Get someone in your
life who can walk along with you as you use the Bulletproof
way. This person may challenge you, comfort you,
congratulate you, confront you or give you whatever feedback
you need to be held accountable. Most things that are as
intense as sustained sobriety are successful if not done
alone. Changing yourself into a long term recovering person
is deep change. Get a recovery partner or coach to help
sustain your efforts.
4.
Go back to the point in this book of the
Bulletproof
Recovery program where you think you jumped the track and
back up a bit for a restart at that point. I had an electric
train set as a kid and if I ran it too fast, it would fly
off the tracks. so, I'd have to put the locomotive, the coal
car and all the other cars in the train back on the track,
one car at a time, then start the train running again. None
of this was impossible, it just took time out from the fun.
It also taught me not to run too fast in trying to get to my
goal. Start over where you left off and this time run the
Bulletproof program a little bit slower. There's no rush, no
deadlines to meet, no place to get to. You are where you
belong. The goal is the trip. The trip is a string of sober
days like pearls on a string. You do that one pearl at a time.
Eventually, you have a precious piece of jewelry called
"solid sobriety".
5.
A final suggestion is that you go back through the
Bulletproof Recovery book taking note of things that stick
out to you or especially catch your negative attention.,
things that spark anger or disbelief or scoff in you. Once
you have finished the book again, look at your notes of
"sticking points" as places for you to put more attention
and effort. Those things in life that hook us usually are
points to start growth, if you will spend the extra time
working through them. These places are like kinks in the
rails that make the train jump the tracks. Take these items one by one and dig deeper into
them to find out what trips you up. These can be
enlightening experiences that, when dealt with, release you
to the next level of recovery and quality living.
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