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  There's no disgrace in asking for help and assistance. Asking for what you need is a critical tool for staying sober. Asking for help to stay sober is one of the best predictors of long term sobriety and solid recovery.

I suppose there are as many roads to long lasting recovery as there are to God, at least that is my opinion. Once a person has found "their" road, however, they ten to act and speak as if it is the only way to the goal, God, recovery, whatever. The Bulletproof program is not the only road to recovery, but it is one of the ways that works really well, if you use it properly.

If Bulletproof Recovery works for you, that's what matters to me. And that's the purpose of this page, to give you suggestions and tips to help you use this method of staying sober. It may not be the only way, but you need to find your way. If you've tried to use this program and you have questions about it or some confusion or it hasn't worked like you need it to, I am pleased you asked for help. Here are some of my thoughts.

1. Call, write or e-mail me. Let's talk. I'll be happy to deal with your individual concerns in applying the Bulletproof program.

2. Bulletproof Recovery is a program. You have to have a program to stay sober as much you have to have a program to save money, exercise and stay physically fit or raise a child. A program is a repeated sequence of behaviors that you use to keep desired outcomes in place over time. Your program of recover has to be practiced repeatedly over time. There are no quick fixes to quick fixes. Keep at it a while. How long? Six months, at least. Then we'll talk about if this is the right program for you.

3. Get a coach, a sponsor, a sparing partner, a practice buddy, what ever you want to call it. Get someone in your life who can walk along with you as you use the Bulletproof way. This person may challenge you, comfort you, congratulate you, confront you or give you whatever feedback you need to be held accountable. Most things that are as intense as sustained sobriety are successful if not done alone. Changing yourself into a long term recovering person is deep change. Get a recovery partner or coach to help sustain your efforts.

4. Go back to the point in this book of the Bulletproof Recovery program where you think you jumped the track and back up a bit for a restart at that point. I had an electric train set as a kid and if I ran it too fast, it would fly off the tracks. so, I'd have to put the locomotive, the coal car and all the other cars in the train back on the track, one car at a time, then start the train running again. None of this was impossible, it just took time out from the fun. It also taught me not to run too fast in trying to get to my goal. Start over where you left off and this time run the Bulletproof program a little bit slower. There's no rush, no deadlines to meet, no place to get to. You are where you belong. The goal is the trip. The trip is a string of sober days like pearls on a string. You do that one pearl at a time. Eventually, you have a precious piece of jewelry called "solid sobriety".

5. A final suggestion is that you go back through the Bulletproof Recovery book taking note of things that stick out to you or especially catch your negative attention., things that spark anger or disbelief or scoff in you. Once you have finished the book again, look at your notes of "sticking points" as places for you to put more attention and effort. Those things in life that hook us usually are points to start growth, if you will spend the extra time working through them. These places are like kinks in the rails that make the train jump the tracks. Take these items one by one and dig deeper into them to find out what trips you up. These can be enlightening experiences that, when dealt with, release you to the next level of recovery and quality living.

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